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“Mother”- Lita Ford

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This is for all the Protective Mothers with empty arms and hurting hearts who are missing their children every second of every day, but who are deeply hurting tonight , in light of the upcoming Holidays. Know that no matter what, you ARE your children’s mother. No one -and certainly no court- can take away this God-given role in your children’s lives. Please know this in your heart. PMA INTL loves and supports you and your precious children, now and forever.
This songs’ story;
“Mother” is based of Lita Ford’s experience with DV By Proxy, something she dealt with firsthand when she went through her divorce from now ex-husband Jim Gillette. Ford’s has two sons, James (16,) and Rocco 12,) who she has not seen since the divorce, and has told Decibel:
“My kids are with their dad. He brainwashed them and took them from me, telling them, ‘Oh, you don’t want to go with Mommy. Mommy’s bad.’ He put the entire weight of the divorce on my kids, which is the worst thing any parent could do to their child. It’s like losing your child to some sort of freak, like in the mall, or somebody hanging out in bushes or at a bus stop. You hear all these horror stories. Only, I know where they are – that’s the only difference.”
She hopes the track and video will reach her sons, but says:
“He won’t let them hear it. He won’t let them have anything to do with me. He won’t let them look at any photographs. It’s the worst thing that’s ever happened in my life. I wrote this song to tell them how much I love them, that I didn’t mean for this to happen and it’s not my fault. I didn’t do this to them – although they think I did.”
Mother – Lita Ford

PMA International’s Official Response to Various Misunderstandings About PMA

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Dear Protective Mothers, Advocates, and Supporters;

We have recently been made aware of some comments on the internet involving PMA International , and we wish to respond. PMA International is issuing this statement to address misunderstandings about PMA, and to continue expressing our support to those struggling with family court abuse, corruption, and DV by Proxy issues.

Statement 1:
PMA International refuses to acknowledge that mothers and women can also be abusers.

PMA International Responds:

PMA INTL is very clear about this issue, which has been addressed on our blog and website describing our No Abuse Zone Policy . See below

“PMA International recognizes that there are different types of abuse and abusers are not gender specific”

For the rest of our No Abuse Zone Policy please visit:

http://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/2014/03/28/pma-internationals-no-abuse-zone-policy/

Statement 2:

There is” bickering, ” “in fighting”,” arguing” and “war” in the Mother’s Movement between PMA, Lundy Bancroft, Janice Levinson, and AMPP/ Claudine Dombrowski. It’s been stated that what is happening between the two organizations is a “turf war” or one organization excoriating the other. This statement has also been addressed on our blog ( see below)

PMA Responds:
PMA INTL has been under attack for 4 years by Claudine Dombrowski, and AMPP . The nature of these attack includes cyberstalking, identity theft, threatening the life of the Executive Director Janice Levinson and is clearly the dynamic of an abuser stalking it’s victim.

“PMA INTL wants to be very clear that there is no” bickering, ” “in fighting”,” arguing” “war” or any other word that might imply mutuality about this AMPP issue. This is a common misconception about this sad situation. This is a very clear case of abuser and target This is the epitome of cyber bullying. PMA never responds in kind to these attacks, PMA in no way initiates these attacks. Understand these attacks have been going on for four years. PMA does not create hate sights targeting protective mothers, for abuse. This is a VERY IMPORTANT distinction that must be made.”

For the rest of this official PMA INTL.statement please visit;

http://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/2013/07/31/the-mothers-movements-dirty-little-secret-abusers-within/

To see Lundy Bancroft’s response to the above attacks please visit;

http://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/2013/07/31/lundy-bancroft-takes-a-strong-stand-against-abusers-within-the-mothers-movement/

In addition, is is very important to note that Claudine and AMPP have launched similar attacks on other protective mothers/advocates that are not PMA members or affiliated with PMA International. Because of PMA’s no abuse zone policy ( see above) we do not work with abusers, and thus do not work with AMPP or any of Claudine Dombrowski/ AMPP’s supporters or promoters.

Statement 3:
PMA INTL has been falsely accused of profiting off the Moms, these are statements made from both Claudine and from father’s rights organizations.

PMA INTL Responds:
PMA INTL is an all-volunteer grassroots organization. We do not get funding from any source. We do not charge membership fees. All of our events and projects are free of cost for anyone who wishes to join, and participate. We welcome all Protective Mothers and Supporters to be a PMA International Member/Supporter, for more information please visit: http://protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com/protective-mothersadvocates-interested-in-joining-pma-international-the-process/

Statement 4:
It has been stated that PMA INTL believes all men are abusers.

PMA Responds:
Our co-founder is Lundy Bancroft, who has offered his male perspective as well as his professional expertise to our organization. We also have created a network called, Man Up for Moms (M.U.M.). M.U.M is headed by a male PMA International Administrator, Greg Sanders. Some of PMA Intl’s other networks include , adult children who are victims of family court abuse and DV by Proxy. This network is called Hear Us Now (H.U.N.) which is headed by Samantha Williams. A large number of PMA’s Administrators, State Leaders, International Leaders and Member/Supporters have sons—and we offer our love and support equally to our sons as we do to our daughters.

PMA INTL is not against fathers; we are against abusive fathers, just as we are against abusive mothers. This is the heart of our No Abuse Zone policy.

Although our specialty and mission statement is working with abused mothers, this not mean that we have an agenda against men, or that we are anti-father or that we are blind to the fact that women and mothers can be abusers too. Just like PMA Intl. understands, there are many organizations helping men but PMA International does not believe all those organizations hate women or are anti-mom; their specialty is just about helping men.

In our experience, there are many groups helping fathers but few helping abused mothers in family court. PMA INTL is an organization that consists of volunteer protective mothers and because of our experience, we saw a need, and decided to step up and help abused mothers and their children.

Statement 5
It has been stated that Lundy Bancroft is only involved in the Mother’s Movement for the money, and that he lacks qualifications to help moms.

PMA INTL. Responds:
Lundy has twenty years of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families. He has also authored many book and scholarly articles. Most important Lundy is a former Co-Director of Emerge, the nation’s first counseling program for men who batter. He has worked with over a thousand abusers directly as an intervention counselor, and has served as clinical supervisor on another thousand cases. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness in domestic violence and child abuse cases. Lundy appears across the United States as a presenter for judges and other court personnel, child protective workers, therapists, law enforcement officials, and other audiences. for more information about Lundy’s experience see below.

http://www.lundybancroft.com/

Thank you for your time, we appreciate your support. We look forward to continuing our work together for the sake of our children!

PMA International; a family of advocates.

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Feds raise new abuse of power allegations against Family Court Judge Steven Jones/ LAS VEGAS REVIEW JOURNAL

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By JEFF GERMAN
LAS VEGAS REVIEW-JOURNAL
New abuse of power allegations tied to embattled Family Court Judge Steven Jones have surfaced in federal court documents.

Federal prosecutors say they have evidence that Jones “used his position and influence” as a judge twice in 2006 to get his former brother-in-law, Thomas Cecrle, released on his own recognizance in a felony bad check case, though local prosecutors had asked that he be kept in jail on no bail.

The Clark County district attorney’s office ultimately dismissed the bad check case against Cecrle and referred it to Las Vegas police for further investigation, but records do not show what happened to that investigation, First Assistant U.S. Attorney Steven Myhre said in the court documents.

Freeing Cecrle allowed a decade-long investment fraud scheme involving the judge to move forward, Myhre wrote.

Court records show Cecrle later was convicted in a felony drug case.

Jones, Cecrle and four others were indicted by a Las Vegas federal grand jury in October 2012 in what authorities said was a $3 million scheme between 2002 and 2012. In the indictment, prosecutors alleged Jones used the power of his office to further the investment scheme and intervened on Cecrle’s behalf to prevent or delay legal processes against him.

The new accusations in the federal case are the latest in a long line of misconduct allegations that has plagued Jones for years.

Jones, 56, first elected to the Family Court bench in 1992, was suspended with pay by the Nevada Supreme Court after his federal indictment. In February, the Nevada Commission on Judicial Discipline suspended Jones for three months without pay after finding that he had violated professional rules of conduct by carrying on a romantic relationship in 2011 with a prosecutor who appeared before him.

The prosecutor, Lisa Willardson, died of a drug overdose in December. Jones, who told police he had planned to marry Willardson, discovered her body in a bathroom at her Henderson home but waited 35 minutes before calling 911. Henderson police closed the case after the coroner concluded Willardson’s death was accidental.

Last month, the judicial commission said it was moving forward with another complaint, alleging Jones was involved in several investment schemes, associated with felons, improperly handled drug evidence and once had an “intimate relationship” with a law student who worked for him.

Prosecutors detailed the new abuse of power allegations against Jones in a motion late last week asking for a hearing to determine whether the judge’s defense lawyer, Robert Draskovich, should be removed from the federal case because of a possible conflict of interest. Draskovich, a veteran defense lawyer, represented Cecrle in the bad check case.

Myhre suggested in a March 27 letter to Draskovich that the lawyer probably will be a prosecution witness in the federal case against Jones and Cecrle.

“For example, you may have received instructions from Jones regarding your representation of Cecrle, learned of Jones’ role in the release of Cecrle, represented Cecrle at the behest of Jones or obtained proceeds of the fraudulent scheme in the course of any payment of fees,” Myhre wrote.

“At a minimum, the government will seek to question you in regard to your knowledge of Jones’ involvement in the state charges against Cecrle and obtain your billing and payment records in connection with your representation of Cecrle.”

Draskovich said he plans to respond to Myhre’s motion.

“There’s been no wrongdoing and no inappropriate conduct on my part,” he said.

Draskovich also said he wasn’t aware of any misconduct by Jones in the Cecrle case.

It’s common for people charged in bad check cases to be released on their own recognizance, Draskovich said. And cases often are dismissed after the defendants pay back the money.

It is uncertain whether the government’s filing will lead to another delay in the federal case, which is supposed to go to trial in June.

In his court papers, Myhre said the bad check case against Cecrle was filed in 2005 after a man he identified as E. A. complained to the district attorney’s office that Cecrle defrauded him while soliciting money in an investment scheme. Several checks Cecrle wrote to the man had bounced.

The man, who had met with both Cecrle and Jones, was identified as Ely Ades in the 12-count complaint prosecutors filed in Las Vegas Justice Court. The complaint alleged Cecrle defrauded Ades out of $58,260.

Justice Court records show that after Cecrle’s first arrest in the case in March 2006, then-Las Vegas Justice of the Peace Tony Abbatangelo released him on his own recognizance.

Cecrle was arrested again a month later in April, and this time then-Las Vegas Justice of the Peace James Bixler set him free.

The case was ultimately dismissed in January 2007 by then-Justice of the Peace Doug Smith.

Both Smith and Bixler are now district judges. Abbatangelo lost his re-election bid in 2010, and in 2011 he agreed not to run for a judicial office for four years under a disciplinary agreement with the judicial commission stemming from a no contest plea in a misdemeanor domestic battery case.

The prosecutor in the bad check case, Chief Deputy District Attorney Bernie Zadrowski, said that in both of Cecrle’s releases, the judges did not inform him ahead of time that they were taking the action.

“Had I known about it, I would have objected to it,” he said. “I think it was inappropriate.”

http://www.reviewjournal.com/news/feds-raise-new-abuse-power-allegations-against-family-court-judge-steven-jones

The Four Dysfunctional Family Roles / Lights Blog

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http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/the-four-dysfunctional-family-roles#axzz2yYrEfEvS

The Four Basic Roles of Dysfunctional Families:
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Golden Child, Scapegoat, Mascot and Lost Child

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Dysfunctional families don’t allow people to be their authentic selves. They dance around their shame, denials and addictions, working to keep everyone in their assigned dysfunctional roles — like it or not.

There are four basic roles in the dysfunctional family:

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The Golden Child/Hero

The golden child is the one who “can do no wrong”. This child is viewed as being the best and the brightest; even if they’re not.
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Some golden children play the part well and end up stuck in the role of success-object, and some golden children are entitled troublemakers who are never expected to actually earn anything, due to their already-favored status. Golden children are expected to abandon their authentic selves in exchange for hollow esteem.

Many golden children wake up much later in life to a nice home, a fancy car, a high-paying job and a supposedly perfect family, all of which they suddenly realize they’d like to trade for something more authentic. Other golden children are the opposite; their lives are a mess because they’ve never had to work to earn their status, and the rest of the world doesn’t reward them similarly for doing nothing.

The Scapegoat

The scapegoat is the child who can “do no right”. This child is viewed as being the reason for everything undesirable and bad, even when they excel.

Some scapegoats enter into the trap of trying harder and harder to redeem themselves in the eyes of their family so they can finally be respected and appreciated for who they really are. They can never be good enough, and will burn themselves out trying to get a pat on the back. Other scapegoats succumb to the role of “bad one” and make waves, because they’re always labeled bad regardless, so they give up trying and rebel in anger.

Many scapegoats spend much of their adult lives still trying to be accepted and appreciated by constantly doing more, giving more and trying more. Other scapegoats spark lots of conflict and difficulties. Scapegoats typically wake up later in life and and realize things aren’t as they should be when their constant efforts to gain respect backfire and get them walked all over at work and at home (or when they get themselves into one too many conflicts pertaining to their adoption of a “who cares” attitude).

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The Lost Child

The Lost Child is the child who withdraws in self-preservation. Ignored and invisible, this child experiences loneliness and a feeling of not belonging.

Many Lost Children remain in the background into their adult lives, hiding from conflict and healthy risk-taking, stuck in the feeling of being a frightened outsider or unimportant “nobody”. Lost children typically wake up later in life to find that they have missed out on many emotional things others have had, such as a sense of connectedness and having made a difference in the world.

Often overlooked, many opportunities for better things have likely passed them by as they retreated into a quiet world which focused on something of value to them that was not likely related to confident interaction (and even conflict) with others. Some lost children take an interest in material possessions or other pursuits with limited social/intimate requirements.
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Mascot/Clown

The Mascot is the child who jokes and distracts the family from the heaviness of its dysfunction. This child expresses the effects of the family’s painful experiences as humor.

Mascots have difficulty accepting and expressing difficult feelings, and will joke their way out of serious circumstances, avoiding the real issue that needs addressing. Mascots may find themselves in entertainment-related fields, since it’s second nature for them to make light of tragedy, pain and suffering. Many mascots awaken later in life to find they have not been taken seriously, or are always counted on to make everyone feel better, perhaps at the expense of acknowledging their own painful realities.

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The Limitations of the concept of family roles

While helpful, the definitions of these roles are imperfect. Some sources claim there are more roles, as many as seven. Some sources claim the golden child/hero only plays the “perfect” role, though there are some golden children who are actually quite entitled, lazy and even antisocial. A similar issue exists with the definition of scapegoats. Some sources claim the scapegoat is “the bad seed”, and others say the scapegoat is the healthiest member of the family.

It’s also been noted that parents may change and mix the roles assigned to a given child based on changes in the family’s needs, experiences, environment and structure. This means it is possible for one child to be both the scapegoat and the lost child, etc., or start out as the golden child and tumble from grace to end up the scapegoat.

Ultimately, these definitions function more like helpful guidelines than scientific analysis, and have helped many people understand the fundamentals of dysfunctional family life.

More Here: http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/the-four-dysfunctional-family-roles#ixzz2yYs5d5J4

Lundy Bancroft Quote; Charm

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April Is Child Abuse Prevention Month

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HEROES

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A Woman Shares Her Day Through Google Glass. It Seems Lovely And Ordinary — Until The End./ Trigger warning: graphic domestic violence.

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“NEVER GIVE UP”/ Yolanda Adams

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“Never Give Up”
Visions that can change the world trapped inside an ordinary girl
She looks just like me too afraid to dream out loud
And though it’s simple your idea, it won’t make sense to everybody
You need courage now If you’re gonna persevere
To fulfill divine purpose, you gotta answer when you’re called
So don’t be afraid to face the world against all odds
[Chorus]
Keep the dream alive don’t let it die
If something deep inside keeps inspiring you to try, don’t stop
And never give up, don’t ever give up on you
Don’t give up
Every victory comes in time, work today to change tomorrow
It gets easier, who’s to say that you can’t fly
Every step you take you get, closer to your destination
You can feel it now, don’t you know you’re almost there?
To fulfill divine purpose, you gotta answer when you’re called
So don’t be afraid to face the world against all odds
[Chorus]
Keep the dream alive don’t let it die
If something deep inside keeps inspiring you to try, don’t stop
And never give up, don’t ever give up on you
[Bridge:]
Who holds the pieces to complete the puzzle?
The answer that can solve a mystery
The key that can unlock your understanding
It’s all inside of you, you have everything you need yeahhhh
Sooooo, keep the dream alive don’t let it die
If something deep inside, keeps inspiring you to try don’t stop
And never give up, don’t ever give up on you
Sometimes life can place a stumbling block in your way
But you’re gotta keep the faith, bring what’s deep inside your heart yeah your
Heart to the light
And never give up Don’t ever give up on you
Nooo don’t give up,
No, no, no, no don’t give up
Oh, no, no, no, no don’t…give…up

What About The Children/ Beautiful song by Yolana Adams- Enjoy!

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